Caregiving is a significant commitment, a daily dance that requires dedication, patience, and a keen ability to adapt. While there are emotional aspects to this role, the practical realities of providing care can present a unique set of challenges. This post delves into the hands-on aspects of caring for my mother, exploring the essential tasks and the common hurdles that I and others face.

The Medication Maze A Personal Navigation
Managing medications is one of the most critical responsibilities of a caregiver, a task I've come to understand intimately. It's about ensuring safety and peace of mind for both my mother and myself. Early on, before my mother came home, we realized this would be a significant challenge. To address it proactively, we arranged for the pharmacist to pre-portion her daily doses in well-labelled blister-style packaging. This was a game-changer for me, simplifying her medication schedule and significantly reducing the risk of errors. While the pharmacist managed her prescription medications, I personally oversee her supplements and nutraceuticals separately. I've consulted with numerous experts to ensure she's receiving the latest available options to support her recovery and overall health maintenance. Open dialogue with her healthcare providers remains vital for staying informed about any treatment changes.

Orchestrating Appointments My Learnings in Coordination

Coordinating medical appointments, therapy sessions, and routine check-ups was initially a steep learning curve. Scheduling, arranging transportation, and being present for discussions with doctors required a new level of organization. What I have learned is there is value in involving my mother in the scheduling process whenever possible. All of the phone calls to her external caregivers are made by her, when she can make appointments and find out the next steps. This empowers her to be actively involved in her treatment, and makes the process feel less like a task, but more like a shared activity.

Beyond medical needs, managing errands – from groceries to bills – have become an integral part of my day. Now more than ever I am relying on my computer's calendar to keep me on-track; missed appointments are not an option. To make sure I do not get double-booked I provide my mother with some scheduling windows.   

Assisting with Daily Living Finding Dignity in Every Task

Helping with activities of daily living, such as personal hygiene, dressing, and meal preparation, is a practical aspect of caregiving. I’ve learned that the key is to approach these tasks with respect for my mother’s dignity and independence. It’s a balance: encouraging her to do as much as she is able for herself while being there to provide support.

This approach can foster a sense of autonomy that I’ve seen can make a positive difference in her days. A significant weight has been lifted from this area, thank God for our PSWs. Their professional assistance with my mother's daily tasks has been invaluable, allowing me to focus on other aspects of her care while ensuring these essential tasks are handled with skill and compassion. The presence of a PSWs has truly made a difference in managing the daily demands of caregiving.

Adapting to the Unpredictable Embracing the Curveballs

Perhaps the most significant lesson caregiving has taught me is the art of adapting to the unpredictable. My mother's needs can shift in an instant – a health condition can flare up, an unexpected situation can arise, or emotions can change rapidly. My own experience has shown me that while you can plan meticulously, the ability to remain calm, think critically, and adjust plans on the fly, although is not easy, is important. Building a support network – leaning on family, friends, and professional resources – has been essential in navigating those moments of uncertainty and stress.

Cultivating Resilience My Personal Path Through Caregiving

The daily dance of caregiving is undeniably demanding, but my journey has also involved navigating many situations. By establishing effective routines, prioritizing organization, and maintaining open communication, caregivers can manage the practicalities. More importantly, cultivating a spirit of adaptability and knowing when and how to seek support are foundational to managing this role. My experiences have reinforced that while the path can be challenging, the growth found in connection, personal development, and shared understanding makes it a meaningful endeavour.

Part 1
Shifting Sands and Steadfast Love: A Caregiver's Journey

Part 2
The Unseen Tides: Navigating My Emotional Rollercoaster as a Caregiver

Part 4
Redefining Relationships: The Parent-Child Dynamic Reimagined